You bring up an interesting point, one that I've been working over for myself a lot.
My sweet FBF is so much to me. (oh yah, NR, that's eloquent) He touches my soul, my very soul, in deep and profound and wordless ways. He's not likely to ever be available for living together; and if he were, we might destroy one another. I feel very sad about that.
My preferred state is living together. So, I've been trying to imagine how I could find and create a partner to live with, whilst not giving him up, and not detracting from our relationship.
It's been my challenge not to downgrade my feelings, whilst accepting the behaviours that are available, without trying to insist upon more.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who lives in the apartment building next door)