Originally Posted by learninginTN
If polyamory hurts this much, then you're not where you need to be to pursue it. You'll be happier with a person who wants you and only you. You'll feel better about yourself...
Thanks for your input. I feel like I shouldn't have to use a relationship or want a relationship just to feel better about myself. I was also single for 2 years and was really happy with it. And I'm actually very happy with myself, it's a lot of external stuff that I'm not happy with (work being one, and yes, the struggles in the relationship, though the relationship I have with my partner is fine if you take away the problems with him seeing someone else).