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Old 02-14-2013, 10:26 AM
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Default He has to help himself

Cleo, Yes, he does have to help himself. I wish I could facilitate himself into helping himself. Without an ultimatum such as you went through. That sort of strategy from me 1) would be forced and ungenuine and 2) do more harm than good.

Most of his insecurities are greatly a matter of perception, his perception of himself. And a person can always think they wish they had more money or stuff like that. So it's normal, but then his thinking is still selfdestructive.

But when there is something tangible, like him wanting to lose weight, he does seem adamant at not wanting to do for himself. That in some particular aspects he doesn't even try to try, because he feels unworthy. That thinking pattern is where I don't know what to say to even attempt to put logic in.
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