Originally Posted by GalaGirl
... What do I get out of being in a relationship with DH? I get to enjoy me being with DH.
I can't get that anywhere else. The me with him that I am and get to be? Can only come with him.
Oh, I could arrive here in this Me Place with another -- content, stable, happy. Come at it from the pretty bowl side.
But I only get the pretty fish views and experience here with him.
I can live without the bowl. Be fun to get to have bowl too.
But I know I want the fish. So here we be. We keep on choosing each other. Daily.
Egads, YES! Brilliant.
"The me with him that I am and get to be? Can only come with him."
The me that I get to be at this moment is the me that I am with him - I would not be that
me if I weren't with him. I would be a different me - that isn't to say a worse me or a better me - but the experience of being with him, of choosing to continuously be with him, shapes and informs the me that I am. Over and over - an ongoing process.
Now that I am with another him too
? - that also shapes the me that I am. Now I am the me that I am when I am with them. It's not a generic - "this is how I am when I am with two people". It is very specific - this is the me that I get to be when I am with these
two persons - who are the them that they are because they choose to be with the me that I am.
Which does NOT mean that we aren't complete people in and of ourselves. I am a whole person, whether I am with many people or none - but I am not unaffected by the people I choose to be with...so I am careful who I choose (I like
enjoying being the me that I am! - pretty fish in pretty bowl - Joy!).