Thank you for your welcome and I can find what I need here.
It is a hard thing to say. Perhapse I expressed it a bit strongly but her having what she wants (Ie both of us) dose make me unhapy as I want her for myself and that is how I thought it would be. Beeing jellous however and cutting him out would make her unhappy and so me unhappy.
GW however just this minnute has shown his rational side and has admitted that I am the better choice for her. Now we are both trying to work out what to do as he has tryed this before with catastrophic results and is in no mood to do it again.
She says she loves GW but he is beeing more reserved. My relationship with him is cordial but there is no love. (I am not bi. He is but has no interest in me).