Please don't give up on this forum. Your story is very moving and heartfelt.
I think you misunderstood--I don't think anyone was trying to attack you or make you feel unwelcome. (I had never heard the term "hypersexual" in a positive context either, so I understand why some people found it jarring).
Lots of people on this forum have VERY GOOD advice and are coming from a very caring, compassionate place. So please keep reading on here, and post more of your story as it becomes relevant.
Single, straight, female, solo, non-monogamous.