Originally Posted by Anneintherain
I'd just ask him straight to his face about it, say I was worried after I saw that comment, and that I'd just like him to be honest with me. If he maintains he was at a friends (does he normally spend nights at friends houses?) and his answers don't sit right with you, I'd message the other woman and ask if he was with her on that date. Lots of people probably wouldn't suggest messaging her, but personally my past experiences have made it so I'd rather be safe than sorry, especially if you don't use condoms with him.
I am confused about who is who though...in your sig you have a fiance and a lover, don't know which of those is your bf, or how you maintain being monogamous with that setup listed in it that specifically states you're open (maybe the sig is outdated though).
Hi, thanks for replying, I know I need to ask him, he does spend nights at friends but it seems funny to me, I did think about messaging her but what right do I have, he will find out and be upset with me, I just don't mess up what we have but you are right I need to know the truth as we don't use condoms.
sorry I can't remember how to update it, I have only been sleeping with him and gaz since October, so we are monogamous. xx