Originally Posted by learninginTN
Well, to answer your question, yes, it is a dealbreaker if she were to actually do this. It is way too blatant a disrespect for me to handle, especially after all I feel I've agreed to let her do (probably more than 99.9% of men on the planet would agree to).
Does she know this is going to be a deal-breaker? Just make sure she does, it's not a threat, it's just a clear establishment of boundaries. Every relationship has a terminal
boundary, one that once crossed can never be un-crossed. This is that boundary for you. You know that once you set down that boundary, you can't pull back from it. That would make you a untrustworthy to yourself, and give her even more permission to disregard your needs.
Take the risk of thinking for yourself, much more happiness, truth, beauty, and wisdom will come to you that way. - C. Hitchens
Me: Male, bi, 48, flexible