I had to reply. That is exactly how I am only you put it into words I can never seem to articulate to anyone. I too shut down. Let me be the one to hurt myself, rather than it be from someone that I love so much. [/]QUOTE]
Now you have put something into words for me!
Part of having someone break your heart is the resentment, and anger toward them. That is very likely the part of the equation we are trying (in vain) to remove from the equation. Perhaps to us cold feels safer than angry or in pain.
Maybe we are Vulcans, left here by accident in a strange time-travel screwup?
Anyway, thanks for the thought. Might you have another two cents to contribute to the Conversation Fund?