Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
Do these jealousies and insecurities mean that you shouldn't date anyone at all?
nyc's not debating the "definition" or poly. She's opposing the notion that to be poly, or "truly poly" (whatever the hell that means), you never have any insecurities or jealousies.
Where did I say that you'd never have any insecurities if you're poly?
If you're in a poly relationship and you're jealous, your insecurities will be likely prodded far more often than if you're in a mono relationship. Hence the reason I suggested poly might not be for that person, because you're going to experience those negative feelings more often - and why would you want that?