Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
Something I noticed while reading this thread is that even in terms of trying to outline the differences here-it's difficult to say what is controlling and what is not-because there is no tone of voice shared.
Boy, is that the truth. 99.9% of the time, what I "get in trouble for" is not what I say, but how I say it. I'm human and I'm also impatient. If something comes up in my brain, I tend to say it right away. I might think a little about the phrasing... but if I'm grumpy or upset, my tone will tend to be negative. My husband won't even hear the words, he'll just hear the tone. Later, he'll completely distort the intent and wording of my message, and just repeat something to me that's probably an accurate reflection of my tone, but not at all what I intended.