Thank you everyone for all your great advice - much appreciated.
Lover S came over today, and then husband DR came home from a meeting at work, and the three of us sat and drank coffee and chatted.
The guys quickly found topics of interested that they shared and had some good, relaxed - 'normal' - conversations.
We spent about 1.5 hours together as a group. I would have to say that as far as this kind of a meeting is concerned, it went about as good as it could have gone.
Feedback from both S and DR is that each thought the other was "a nice guy," each adding, "I like him."
Whoo hooooo! Let's hope all subsequent meetings are this good..... :-)
Thanks again everyone!