I don't see as there's any serious problems going on; you should be reasonably safe if you just take things in small bites (i.e., don't try to eat the whole elephant in one sitting).
Make sure you are discussing your feelings with each other, and checking each other's emotional temperatures often. If you have a trigger, try to identify and analyze it.
There is a lot of valuable reading material on this site, so dig in, and post any thoughts or questions that you have. Love is not predictable. It just happens. You have to figure out what to do about it when it does happen.
What would help reduce the confusion you're experiencing?
I hope we can help.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"