Yes I agree I need to forgive her more for myself and my own sanity to move forward than for her. Would be nice to hear an apology some responsibility for her actions rather than just playing the victim.
We took a year off...cut off all contact whatsoever with one another and came back to it and it still seems to be going sour. It started off good this time around but then we seemed to be throwing digs at one another, competing, one-upping each other. That is what has me questioning if this can ever work.
He has apologized to me numerous times and I think he is pretty honest and upfront with me now so I do know I need to let it go which I pretty much have. It's very rare that I bring up the past with him anymore.