Oh Carma, it's good to hear from you, but I'm sorry some things are still icky. At least your divorce will mean freedom from a toxic relationship. Take things slowly with Butch, you've had a lot to deal with. And don't be afraid to be very cautious and particular about how often Sundance's gf gets to be around your kids. You have every right to limit that. Hang in there!
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan