Originally Posted by tamlvscarl
We decided to call it quits (her & I) at the end of last year. He continued his relationship with her.
Sorry, Kevin, and Razorbacktat, I think you may have missed this bit. She is no longer in a triad, but she is an arm of vee, sounds like.
Other than that, I would heartily second Kevin's advice. Sounds like trying to negotiate together for a written solution seems very wise.
Any chance you could see a poly friendly counselor? Seems like they are available online, if you are remote.