Found something interesting....
The story you are telling here sounds a lot like this story from the man's point of view in this thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39876
Is mrblueeyesxxx your husband?
B: (me) female, poly, straight
M: (my husband - married 5, together 13) male, heteroflexible
A: (our, myself and M's 2 year old daughter)
C: (my LD boyfriend) male, mono, straight