Its more a matter of exposure than anything else. I live in LA where the population is pretty diverse so disabilities are fairly common and nobody really does much lookie-looing unless they're out-of-towners.
Men are tied to the normative body for specific reasons. I'm all behind the "everyone is beautiful in their own way" idea but we have some fairly sexist mating instincts that we still haven't conquered yet, all humans do.
I am as direct as a T-Rex with 'roid rage and about as subtle. It isn't intended to cause upset, I just prefer to talk plain. There are plenty of other people here who do the nice, polite thing much better than I can. I'm what you'd call a "problem dinner guest."