So much in common
We have exactly the same problem. We have been a quad for about 6 months, and face many of the problems you face, we are two couples that fell into this by accident.We have no prior poly experience. We are very much in love. We live 30 minutes apart. Are careers include home maker, finance, banking and investigation. To come out would end three of those careers. We are currently day dreaming and discussing selling both our homes and building a home designed for our quad to live as equals 24/7. I have read other posts from you and feel we have so much in common, I hope we can stay in touch and hopefully compare notes as we go.