Originally Posted by Tahirabs
If it wasn't for the people you love (the people you have a polyamourse relationship with) would you be poly at all?
My being poly is not based on who I'm with. It's based on a discovery I made several years ago that I *can* love more than one person at a time - not as I love my friends, but with a romantic, passionate, sexual love.
I broke up with my b/f earlier this summer, but losing him didn't make me not-poly. It just means I haven't found someone else yet.
Kinda like if a mono person breaks up with her b/f and is looking for another partner ... being currently single doesn't make her celibate for life.