I am a suit wearing profesional who wears torn jeans and fasionable clothing away from the office, H is a stay at home mom and my bookeeper so you would catch her in anything from jeans and high heels to work out clothes to a dress, K is in the medical profession and you will see her in scrubs or in jeans and a tshirt unless we decide to dress up and then she will put on a dress but usually not the high heel type.
We fit in our uppermiddle class lifestyle very well. We are not wierd to us, just different. We have a few friends that know about our poly lifestyle but to most we are all just good friends who spend alot of time together.
I definately dont think Poly people look some certian way, I do find them to be well read open minded people who fit in most anywhere.