Welcome to our forum.
Your story was both very interesting and very moving. If only they would tell us about things like polyamory and asexuality when we were kids! It would save a lot of people a lot of heartache.
It's wonderful that you and your husband are at last getting some ideas about how you can live together again and make it work. I hope Polyamory.com can be of help to you as you figure things out. I think it can.
Take awhile to explore our various threads, and post any thoughts or questions you may have. There are a lot of good people here, and many new friends to be made.
It is great to have you onboard.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"