I'm with Phy, especially her first paragraph. You could always start with that old Princess Jasmine line -- " I am not a prize to be won." YOU decide who "deserves" your time, no one else.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.