Originally Posted by quila
What I'm getting at is there are a lot of "values" I have that I used to think were deal-breakers, and it turns out that if the rest of the relationship is worth it, I can learn to deal with a lot of things.
Yes, I can definitely relate! There have been a few times where something that I thought was part of my non-negotiable "bottom-line" for relationships turned out to be something that I *would* be prepared to live without, if other things were right. Took me by surprise.
I still think that there are some core values and goals that I couldn't give up no matter how good the relationship is, but times like that caused me to open up my mind and really examine what I thought were hard limits to see whether they really were or not.