Originally Posted by nondy2
Since people have written about have sex early - would some of you share your first experiences? In retrospect, did you handle the relationships well? Did you have any problems socially, being critized by others? Did you have any trouble with STDS or pregnancy? Did you tell your parents? Where they healthy relationships? It would be great to have insight. I didn't have sex until 1st or second year in college. I wouldn't say I had my first "successful" sexual relationship until 24, and even that wasn't so great!
My first experience was at 14 with a girlfriend. It was awkward as hell but I wouldn't say unpleasant, I was more nervous than anything. That relationship did not end well but I at least have an awareness as to why so those mistakes aren't repeated. Plus she and I are basically best friends now so its all worked out.
STD's and pregnancy have never been problems. Which I find amazing because for the 2 years of my first girlfriend and I being together, we were sexual for about a year and a half with no protection whatsoever other than good timing. Condoms just weren't available to us so we didn't use them. Somehow we avoided getting pregnant.
In retrospect, getting started early was one of if not the best decision I've made in my personal life. It enabled me to start exploring a pretty amazing world that I've gotten a lot of personal enrichment from. I couldn't imagine not knowing what I know now and missing out on the experiences I've had because I wanted to wait until adulthood or marriage.
For some reason I have yet to divine, the overwhelming majority of my sexual partners have been virgins and I've been the more experienced party. Its not intentional and I dont seek out sexually inexperienced people, but for some reason they tend to gravitate towards me.