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Old 01-29-2013, 03:57 AM
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I've got to be completely honest.... I don't think you have any hope of reassuring yourself. The initial reassurance has to come from your partner. If they don't give it, you aren't going to feel it.
Excellent point. It's like "How can I convince myself that this Pitbull isn't going to bite hand off?" when it's standing there, snarling at you and snapping at your hand.

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As a final note, I believe that relationships often continue the way that they start off. Especially if you don't hammer out the danger signs swiftly.
Also a good point. By and large, relationships tend to degrade over time. It takes commitment and hard work from both partners to maintain them, and even more commitment and hard work to improve them. If both people aren't on board for that, improvement just ain't gonna happen.
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