Best of luck to all of your Quad + 1! Sounds like a lot of love
My Other Husband has told me more than once: "Difficult things (situations) often reap the best rewards".
That seems to go with Dr. David Schnarch's Passionate Marriage where he said, "People often need to feel discomfort to grow/get better."
If that's true you all could be in for some really great times
: Don't know if you'll get back on this thread? If you do, would you elaborate on ....beware NRE?