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Old 01-28-2013, 07:46 PM
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You know how some people say if someone isn't right for you, you should write back politely saying, thanks but no thanks? Here is why I don't usually bother.

Hello Ms Magdlyn

My partner Z & I really love your profile & pictures. We're very clean and open-minded. Would you consider meeting a couple? Z is an attractive red head.

We're very easy-going people. We love to cook, cuddle, tequila/wine, ethnic foods, go to drum circles, (I'm a drummer,) hiking, all types of music/music events, etc. We swing a bit and enjoy some kink too. We also love great conversation.

Love your eyes! and LOVE your spice rack!

Happy New Year!
X & Z
So, he's looked at my pix (references to eyes and spice rack) and maybe seen I am poly in my profile. I write back:

Hi X,

Thank you for your interest. However, I do not feel we are a good match. I am not a swinger, I am polyamorous. I am not interested in being a plaything for a couple.

Happy New Year to you as well.

We weren't looking for a play thing. We are a loving couple and are hoping to have someone in our lives together.
Refraining from puking, I again respond:

Are you new to polyamory? Perhaps you do not know that trying to find a woman who will be into both male and female of an established couple equally is so rare as to be nicknamed a unicorn? I have no idea if I'd be attracted to both of you equally. Would you really drive up here over 100 miles on the very slim chance I'd be into both of you?

Even when this kind of triad comes together, from what I have seen, it usually fizzles out once NRE fades and jealousy from one of the 3 rears its head.

New? Why do you have such a shitty attitude?

FYI, we have met MANY sexy, younger women HERE. I love your age group, but maybe it's what is preventing you from being open and aware.

Unicorn is an OLD term dear. MANY, MANY women enjoy this and we do well w/meeting w/out jealousy.
sigh... Calls my attitude shitty, then goes on to confirm what I'd suggested, by telling me he's met "many" "sexy" "younger" women.

Then calls me close-minded and unaware. Then goes on to confirm my issues with him again!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

A standing prick hath no conscience. --Bill Shakespeare

me: Mags, female, pansexual, 60, poly-dating, and loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, poly, 38
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