What Commitment means to me
Commitment for me is a commitment not to me as a person but to the relationship. It means not running at the first sign of trouble or of changing ones mind on a whim and just disappearing out of someone's life. It means feeling like I wish to encourage personal growth in those that I are in a relationship with (and it is up to the individual to define that, not me) and they with me.
When times are hard it means that there needs to be a certain "stickwithitness" - a willingness to stay with it and try to work things out.
If, as sometimes happens, it's not possible to do that, then everyone agreeing that it's just not working and agreeing to go our own ways is not showing a lack of commitment in any way, shape or form. I don't expect anyone to be with me if they don't choose to be.
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