Sorry to have been unclear. I meant if my words will cause anxiety for the person listening to me. My baggage is all about not upsetting someone else by telling them things they don't want to hear. I was raised to stuff my own feelings/needs as far down as necessary in order to not upset anyone else around me.
And maybe I am being too literal here, but just for the record, I am a woman, in a relationship with another woman. There are no guys involved, at this time. :-)