Originally Posted by Marcus
Not trying to rain on anyone's parade.
If I had a male lover in my life like I have a female lover in my life that would be a lifestyle change.
To me, sexual orientation goes far beyond "lifestyle." Lifestyle connotes clothing choices, food choices, living spaces, vacations, whether or not you have kids, perhaps your religion, whether you go out clubbing or hang out at libraries or never go out.
You can be gay or lesbian and have nothing in common with another gay or lesbian person except that you both love your same sex partner(s). There is no "gay lifestyle." That is dangerous territory leading to the horror the right winger fundamentalists feel for the "gay agenda."
But maybe you have an idea in your head of what kind of lifestyle all gay men live... *shrug*
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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Nick, 35, M (occasional lover)
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