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Old 01-23-2013, 12:00 PM
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Hi Blopez5293. I’m sorta kinda with you. I don’t like the idea that little kids are watching porn although I did the same. But there is nothing anyone can do. I am into kink, I have some fetishes… but I don’t want little kids to be doing those… There are different types of porn out there... some of those really can harm...

Here is an excerpt from a BBC Newsbeat article.

"In some cases, yes. Guys tend to think it's all about performance, they think they've got to be sexual athletes.
"For girls, it's often about doing things which perhaps they wouldn't normally be comfortable with. Those are the dilemmas people come to us with."

Here are some excerpts from another BBC News article

A survey of 16-24 year olds by the University of Plymouth and the UK Safer Internet Centre found that one in three admitted porn had affected their relationships. ChildLine said it had seen a 34% rise in the last year in the number of calls from teenagers distressed by sexual images they had viewed online.

One 17-year-old, Rebecca, says porn changes boys' expectations of how girls should look. "Long hair, big boobs, big bum. If I had short hair, guys would be like, why short hair? You should grow it out."
Her classmate Femi says porn can worry boys too. "Maybe you're not physically living up to what porn is showing you," he says.

Karen, now 20, spoke to Radio 1's Newsbeat about the effect porn had on a relationship she had as a teenager.
"I met him first in sixth form. Porn was very much something he did with his friends, they shared websites, and talked about it often, a sort of hobby.
"When he got more comfortable with me, he liked us to watch it together. That's when I started to realise it wasn't normal stuff, it was a bit darker than that.
"Because that was the only experience that I had of it, I thought there was something wrong with me for not enjoying it.
"Very violent... sex, hitting, slapping, scratching, pulling, sort of doing what he wanted at the speed he wanted to do it, and no sort of consideration or care for how it would make me feel.
"He was a boy, he wasn't a rapist in an alley jumping out at people; he thought it was normal and that was what everyone was doing."

You can't ignore it. You can't force him to stop watching porn. If he doesn't have a smartphone chances are at least one of his friends does.

Here is my suggestion what the article has…

Gallop thinks parents should also have more of an open dialogue with their children.
"The key is not to get embarrassed, or say something like 'nice girls don't do that', and it doesn't matter if a child doesn't really want to listen, the important thing is to keep the line of communication open," she says.

But again, I am not a parent. I don’t know how to raise a child.
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