RockerChick and TGIG, I'm so glad you had the time to post all those details. Yes, ALL of that. Possibly even more if I took the time to re-read.
True love does not result in a psychotic break
YES YES AND MORE YES!!!!!
One of my major steps in deciding to divorce was the realization that I was going steadily downhill and 'love' should not be tearing a person apart. Love should uplift and help both people to become better people, happier, more fulfilled, to grow.