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Old 01-22-2013, 06:16 AM
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I wasn't married, but my men were/are/were best friends. I don't know what their damn status is, they talk way less than I would to a dear friend, and they don't discuss their friendship with me.

I was mono with FBF for two years. Early in that, he met CBF and hired him to work for FBF. They became very close friends; and the three of us were also friends together. When FBF and I were looking like it wouldn't last, CBF was kind to me. When we actually broke up he talked both of us through it. And after that, eventually CBF and I started going out. One of CBFs special powers is bringing people together. I'm not sure that without him, FBF and I would have continued a friendship. 6 years later, (about a year ago), we became a vee.

They were much less worried about it than I was. None of us (I think) had tears about the vee, though I had plenty of tears. I seemed to be the only one that ever worried about the vee, or the health of it, or whatever. Both of them were very reassuring to me when I was freaking out.

In January, I broke up with CBF, so we are no more. But it wasn't about the vee.

Encourage you to do a forum search for the tag 'hinge' if you want to read stories about that. Might be helpful.
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein

Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)
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