You don't need to apologize, I didn't mean to criticize, just to offer an alternate perspective. I'm sorry to hear about your experience with your ex, how terrrible. Have you considered therapy to help with what you went through?
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.