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Old 01-21-2013, 06:36 PM
Starseed Starseed is offline
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Thank you for the response Kevin! Okay, I will go ahead and give a little background on myself.

I'm a straight guy. I was married for 18 years to a wonderful Bi lady. We have raised two lovely teenagers together. Been divorced now for four years.
It was ten years into our marriage before I began to realize my wife was Bi :-)

To back up a bit.....from the time I was nine until about twenty I grew up very, very isolated on the side of a mountain. My parents did a smart thing in that they knew they wanted to raise all of us eight kids outside the influence of the the basic distorted societal and cultural structures. So, I was raised not with the notion that I could or could not do certain things but instead knowing that it was I that determined what was appropriate for me. Very little programming involved, i.e. - good/bad, right/wrong.
I was also raised with a lot of love which has been my guiding light my entire lifetime.

Fast forward a bit and now I've been married for about 5 years. I was reading the Conversations with God books when the notion began to grow on me: It feels "right" to share each other in intimate relationships. This was 1995 to 1997. As a couple of years went by, I decided one of the ways I could approach this with my wife would be to offer that she (if she decided it was appropriate for her) contact an old high school boyfriend and put closure in their relationship that neither one of them had done to their satisfaction.

She was shocked that I would suggest such a thing! The idea did not catch on with her, but......a few years later I realized that she was indeed Bi. We made contact with a lady that lived over the pond and this gal came to meet us. The triad was not successful, but it helped both my wife and I to understand each other and ourselves much better.
Two years later we tried a triad again and it worked for about 6 months. All of us I believe learned a LOT for the experience and for me it was full of opportunity that I took advantage of.
One of the reasons the triad only lasted for as long as it did was that the lady who came to live with us was not Bi, but hetero. The passion was just not there for the two ladies.

Believe it or not, I had no idea until about one week ago there was even a term of "Poly" :-) I just knew that sharing was what was "right" for me because for me; my Love grows the more I share it with others and nurture it within Self.

I have been single now for four years and for the last 2.5 years I've not dated. I'm extremely happy and at peace, but its very nice to share with others this understanding of Polyamory. I see myself in the not too distant future once again sharing my love with several others.

Thank you for listening and and being here each and everyone of you!

Love & Blessings,
Dan

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Originally Posted by kdt26417 View Post
Hi Dan,
Welcome to our forum.

I'm glad your experience here has been a positive one so far. Share, if you will, a little more about yourself, and if you have any thoughts or questions.

Regards,
Kevin T.
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