Hi, I am new to the forum and hope this is the right place to ask for this kind of advice, but here goes.
Recently my wife and I decided that we wanted to include another female in our relationship. We didn't start out with trying to have a full blown relationship with anyone, but were merely looking for someone that would want to play every once in a while.
We met this young lady and have really hit it off with her. She was very upfront with us that she had a boyfriend of four years and that she wanted this to be very discreet. I know it's probably bad, but my wife and I didn't really think anything of it until now. The relationship with her has moved forward quite naturally, but now that we've gotten to know more about the situation we are a bit concerned as to what to do next.
I suppose we weren't expecting the boyfriend to be the way he is and at the time this started he was only an idea if that makes sense. He is a great guy though as we've recently met him. He was in the Marine Corp and injured his back while enlisted. His pain has gotten to the point to where he can't have sex which is why she sought it out elsewhere. He is super nice and honestly someone that my wife and I would be friends with beyond the current situation. The problem is he has no clue about this and my wife and myself are having some serious doubts.
We have made it clear to her that we want her to be our girlfriend and be exclusively with us, but that was before knowing more about him. When we are with her everything is good and we all get along extremely well, but when we are away from her we tend to doubt this relationship.
Does anyone have any good advice to help us figure this out?