"I'm sorry to have to ask but what does it mean to ping something and how would I do that?"
Oh that just means you add another post (can be short) to whatever thread it is. That way the thread gets bumped back to the "top of the queue" and is more likely to get noticed by people.
I think it will work fine to pass along TJ's questions and whatnot. It's not like you're trying to speak like a two-person Borg collective or something.
Sounds like you're already getting acquainted with the ins and outs of polyamory. One book recommendation is "Opening Up
" (by Tristan Taormino). Other book and website recommendations can be found at http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...0598#post10598
Hope you will be able to continue to find the kind of info you seek.