Thanks, GalaGirl, I think I'm going to wait a couple days and send her a message to that effect. Wait til I calm down a bit. Give her some time to mull things over. Figure out what I want to talk about with her. With both of them. Then we will try again. Was trying to get things resolved too hastily I think. I am still very raw and vulnerable.and defensive. Thanks so much again for the advice. It's really nice to have a place to turn to when I need to be heard or want some support since I don't really have anyone who can relate IRL.