Emotional connections from past loves can be very long lasting, RG.....I've been married for 27 years but I still wonder where this one woman from 30 years ago is.....more curious than anything, but I was quite emotionally attched to her, much moreso than her to me. Your wife and this distant guy, seem to have that same attachment but mutually, but as a friend of mine used to say, you never know how it's gonna go until you are sleeping and living under the same roof with that person. Do you foresee that happening?
Is your wife more wanting a life with this guy than you? I would suppose that people transitioning into the poly life have that grass is always greener on the other side look, quite often.
Maybe you would grow to like him, maybe he would you....but I'm not sure like is enough. I think you really truly need to love and respect the other person brought into the relationship for the triad to last any meanigful amount of time. IMO.
Last edited by Mark1npt; 06-10-2009 at 05:47 PM.