Thanks for the feedback, Kevin.
I've already had that talk with Danny, though it seems we need to do it a few more times. That's ok. I can imagine this must be difficult for him, even though this was kind of his idea in the first place. But now that we're in this, I think it's safe to say that all three of us want this to work out.
I may need to start a new thread on this question, but have many people here been able to move into a successful live-in situation with their lovers? I know that some have; I guess I'm wondering if there's a "norm." Then again, maybe I'm on the wrong forum to find anything "norm," eh?