Welcome to our forum.
Making mistakes is normal so don't beat yourself up about it. At the same time, I think you have the right idea in coming to Polyamory.com, and you will find many threads here that will be helpful to you and give you ideas.
I have actually thought about moving to Washington State as I have cool relatives up there (and I actually enjoy the ambience
). Right now I live in New Mexico, so you should be jealous.
Glad you could join us here.