I don't have much time to comment at the moment, but I wanted to say that there are some great essays and tips at www.morethantwo.com
that you both may find useful. Best of luck!
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.