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Old 01-17-2013, 12:11 AM
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Originally Posted by Natja View Post
Actions speak louder than words in my mind. I have an ex who told me he loved me, he admitted later he only said that because he felt pressured to because I said it first.

I hated him for that dishonesty, I wasn't expecting him to say it, I did not prompt him or wait looking at him to say it, I just wanted to share my feelings. I was naive I suppose, because I did not realise that a declaration like that, in itself was a pressure.
I can see where he was coming from, though. When many (most, even) people say it, they do expect it to be returned.

If I ever told someone I loved them and I didn't expect it back, I would explicitly say that in my delivery. "I don't expect you to return this unless you really really mean it, and I won't be hurt or offended if you don't. But I just want you to know, I love you."
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