Originally Posted by Achimwis
Sorry if I came off as unnecessarily down.
Thanks for the clarification, all of that sounds much better.
As for meeting people, I'd do a combination of seeking out people on okcupid, local poly meetups if you can make it to any (though socializing is often the more immediate goal than dating there), and simply going out and doing things you enjoy. I find the people I meet along the way interesting and more likely to be good partners than if I'd gone to a bar. Also, by focusing on things I enjoy it's not a real problem if I don't find end up dating anyone from it.