Originally Posted by kdt26417
Sounds like you and your wife may have a bit of a disconnect in terms of what you want out of polyamory. She seems to want to date independently, whereas you're wanting to date as a couple.
Your interpretation makes me think I may have totally misread the OP's statement. I read "She is out and about, but seems completely uninterested in engaging in couples activities. So I'm feeling on my own" as meaning she wasn't interested in going out with the OP to do things, maintaining their connection.
Rather than it being an issue of "dating others as a couple" I read it as them no longer dating each other, essentially. Maybe I need more sleep ;-) I still can't tell which interpretation is closer to the truth from the initial brief message.