Welcome Raven. Why don't you try looking around at the many threads on the board relating specifically to what you think your issues are?
If you are both poly, but both afraid to actually meet others, why is this and what are you going to do about it?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37