I am still with my wife, but to be honest it's more trying to help her through counseling while we figure out the divorce than anything else. She doesnt want it still, somehow wants me to just forget the other person completely and have everything go back. I love the fact that she's in counseling, but in my heart I know it's over.
And yes, the secondary relationship is very salvageable. She is happy to wait for me for months if necessary for me. I can't hardly even talk to her know due to the arguments it causes, but she knows that is only temporary.