I wanted to thank everyone for their wonderful advice. Raven, I thank you very much for the suggested reading, it was indeed very enlightening and helpful. To GS, thank you for you very helpful reply, my wife and I do have generally the same taste, thanks for the advice, it helps coming from someone who seems to be in a like situation. Thank you as well Quath, I appreciate the words of warning. I had planned to start the way you advised, cause thats how I start and base any relationship, and I would more then likely deal even with a poly relation in the same way. It's all about growing with the other person, communicating with them, and finding out about each other, that's how a relationship grows.
So thanks again to everyone for the kind and thoughtful responses. I am truly thankful I found this wonderful website, it has been a Godsend.