Thankyou galagirl. I apreciate your response, the issue really comes down to the fact that she doesn't want to loose this friend. I know what most people are going to say to that, and I don't necessarily disagree, a true friend wouldn't do that, but people in love do all sorts of things (though that doesn't mean I like it anymore, but genebean is a wonderful person, and anyone would fight for her).
I suppose I'll have to wait and see what happens, genebean said she might talk to her about it today. So we'll see. Any other suggestions anyone?